I recently decided that weddings are the proms of adulthood. Dinner, dancing and dressing up with all of your best friends – the only change is that we’ve added alcohol and obviously a glass of champagne or 3 can make any event better ; ) While I’m not planning my own just yet, I’ve recently delved into the world of bridesmaid-ing and I’m learning a LOT about how to help everything run smoothly before and during the big day. This will be the first post of a series on the subject – Bridesmaid Tips & Tricks – so hopefully you can use some of our ideas (and mistakes) to make your own experience better! First up – making bridesmaid dress shopping less “dreaded”
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We’ll break this down into two sections – tips for both the ladies in the bridal party and the lady of honor as well! It’s important that everyone is on the same page before starting the bridesmaid dress shopping process so you can get in, get out and look gorgeous without any drama.
- Be prepared! Bring a few different bra options (normal, strapless, adhesive) and wear no-show underwear so you’ll get a good idea of how the dress will actually look on wedding day. It’s hard to love a gown when your black bra straps are distracting you ; )
- Don’t critique the style. Remember that the bride may have picked out this dress so she obviously liked something about it. It’s not your place to declare that the straps are “soooo out of style” or that the material looks cheap. It’s HER day and her choice, not yours!
- But on that same note: don’t be afraid to speak up (nicely) if a particular dress is uncomfortable when you try it on. If material is heavy or itchy or embellishments are rubbing against your skin, say something now or forever hold your peace.
- You know the age old saying – “Don’t judge a dress by the hanger.” Okay, maybe I altered it a little bit but you get the idea. Just because you don’t love the way it looks on the rack doesn’t mean it won’t be beautiful once you actually get it on. Be open minded!
- And once you try it on? Get moving! On wedding day you’ll be sitting, standing, walking, posing and dancing – so don’t hang out in front of the mirror while you’re modeling. Get an accurate idea of how the dress moves with you – no flashing the wedding guests!
- Last but not least – keep alterations in mind. If you aren’t thrilled with the way the dress fits, know that seamstresses can work virtual magic on your gown. From simple hems to inserting boobs (praise hands) alterations give you a great chance at loving the outcome!
- Make an appointment! This is probably pretty obvious but unless you’re only taking one bridesmaid along at a time, you’ll need to reserve dressing rooms in advance – you can also already have dresses and sizes ready to go!
- Keep it small. Just your bridesmaids, if possible! Everyone in the world will have different opinions on dresses – you gotta go in knowing that you can’t please everyone. “Too many cooks in the kitchen” is a very real thing when wedding planning ; )
- Know your timeline – you’ll need to reserve time to try on, then the dresses will be ordered and then alterations will need to be scheduled and completed! Make sure you start dress shopping well in advance of your wedding day.
- This might not be an obvious one but I think it’s important – Try it on! Your girls might not tell you if the dress is uncomfortable for fear of having too much opinion on your special day, so put it on yourself to be sure. Dresses are expensive so try your hardest to make sure everyone will look AND feel their best all day long.
- Last but not least – Feed them. Either before (keep it light) or afterwards, make sure a meal is planned to keep everyone happy and stomachs full. No one likes shopping while hangry, and cocktails wouldn’t hurt either ; )
Any other tips for bridesmaid dress shopping or being part of a wedding in general? Leave them in the comments – let’s help each other out!